musings from my sick bed

I have been sick all week.  Started on Sunday with a sore throat and quickly progressed to a fever, cough, and body aches.  I didn't do the wise thing and take care of myself.  Instead, I opted to work (12 hours on Monday, 8 on Tuesday, and 6 on Wednesday).  In addition, I had other commitments, namely 3 well child checks (for my 3 healthy boys) as well as a back-to-school night at the Middle School which I was NOT going to miss.  And I didn't.  By Wednesday night, I collapsed in my bed, clutching my bottle Nyquil, and I've been mainly horizontal since.

Some thoughts:

1.  The 2 am "booster dose" of Nyquil makes waking up at 5:45 am very, very hard.

2.  My boys can be incredibly sweet.

3.  Middle school is awesome!  Teachers are great and committed and interesting.  The school has a no tolerance bullying policy which makes it (so far) as safe community.

4.  There can be too much viewing of Real Housewives.  I think I may have done permanent brain damage.

5.  My house has definitely become the house to hang out.  After school today, 4 extra children have migrated over here, which brings the grand total to 7 boys.  This makes me so happy.

I'm exhausted.  Back to horizontal.

What I did on my summer vacation

Hi,

I had the last full week of August off from work, and I had the best damn time being at home with my kids.  Reminded me about those good old days of being a stay at home mom.  Lazy mornings.  Open schedules.  Having the time to read the daily paper.  Sitting in a hot house and not wanting to turn on the a/c.  Noticing how much my children bicker with each other.  Continually picking up after them.  Making breakfast, then snack, then lunch, then snack, then hearing "I'm hungry, what's for dinner?" and then having them not eat it because "it's too hot/cold/healthy/colorful".  Hearing the sound of the tv for way more time than it should be on.  Oh, wait a minute.  I guess there are some benefits to working outside of the home.  

One thing I did do that week was take some pictures.  I have been a very negligent photographer this summer.  

We went to Babcock Hall to get ice cream.  My kids loved that name and chortled about it all afternoon.  

We then went to Picnic Point with our friends.  Kids climbed trees and played in the sand while one of my dearest mama friends and I chatted. 

 Love.  

I decided to attempt for a Christmas card photo.  What do you think?

Oh, this renegade photo is from Two's ninth birthday.  More on that in another post.  

On another day, we took a field trip to Ian's pizza for lunch and the state capital for a mini civics lesson.   We sang with the solidarity singers and risked arrest.  Afterwards, we assembled...

... and enjoyed the beautiful view.

We took two trips to Devil's Lake.  This last week of school is filled with all sorts of school obligations, such as registering children and paying gobs of fees and picking out band instruments and meeting teachers for "Ready Set Goal!" conferences and the like.  Our first trip was super short - sandwiched between some of this school stuff.  Our second trip was simply lovely.  Three did one of his favorite things and built a stone sculpture.

Decorated with an army guy he found on the beach.  

Double love.

I had decided to take the children on a mystery field trip.  It was a mystery only to the children, and simply because I didn't want to hear them complain about how awwfulllll and borrrrrrringgggggg it would be before heading there.  The only hints I gave them was that we were heading to a state we hadn't visited before, we were not staying overnight, and (best of all) it was free.

Any guesses?

Here's a hint...

Here's another one...

We drove to Dyersville, IL and went to Field of Dreams!  So fun!  So peaceful!

Except for this sick boy.  Did I mention that One was sick all week?  I had more ideas planned for the week, but we scrapped some of them.  He rallied for the mystery field trip, but ended up on the outfield in the prone position for a while.

 Another potential christmas card photo?

This one is better.

There's not much to do there, and that is certainly part of the charm.  We brought our bat, a rubber red ball that, turns out, was Dash the Dog's ball and, turns out, SQUEAKED every time we hit it (ha! dork alert!), and gloves, and we played a couple of innings in the outfield with our shoes as bases (dork alert number 2!) (other, more organized and serious groups were using the actual field).  It was really fun, and I was reminded at how much the kids enjoy the simple pleasures of their parents playing with them.  

Kids ran through the cornfields. 

And then we just laid in the grass, enjoying the peaceful vibe.  The grass was luscious.  It was simple and perfect.  Simply perfect.

On the drive home, we stopped in downtown Dubuque, Iowa along the Mississippi river.  We walked along the Riverwalk and sat and watched the river.  

There were many trains traveling on the Wisconsin side of the river.  There were wedding parties taking pictures.  Beautiful, potted flowers.  Big rocks to climb up and down.  There was a steep hill on the walk back to the parking lot, which the kids rolled down over and over.  Something came over me, and I rolled down the hill once too.  The kids laughed. I almost threw up, but it was worth it.  

Love.

We got home by sunset and watched Field of Dreams, which I had rented from the library.  It was the perfect end to a lovely day.  

We also said goodbye to the Goodman Pool for the season (so sad!) and went to Mt Olympus water park for an afternoon (so overwhelming!).  No pictures of that.  And no need to return any time soon.

We are week #2 into the school year, and re-entry has been relatively smooth.  Middle school is so far, so good.  Fingers crossed.  4th grade is great, but we knew that.  1st grade is going well too.  We seem to have once again hit the lottery with teachers, for which I am thankful.  

I will sign off.  It's my (new) typical Monday schedule, and I worked 12 hours today.  Will work 8 tomorrow.  Off to bed to recharge for morning.

summer summary

Waaaay too much to update here.  I'm overwhelmed at the task at hand.  Maybe I should summarize my summer, so far.

1.  Every Tuesday and Thursday, I bike to the neighborhood pool and swim laps from 6 - 6:30 am with a friend/neighbor.  On Wednesdays, we walk for 50 minutes of so during that six o'clock hour - because it's hard to talk and swim laps at the same time, so we have to catch up on our news together on Wednesdays.  This whole exercise with a friend concept?  It works!

2.  I have loved watching many sunrises while swimming my laps, and I have noticed my endurance really increase as the weeks have ticked away.  The last couple of weeks, I've included some olympics daydreaming during my swimming.  I pretend I'm training for Rio 2016.  hahahahaha.

3.  We had a week of vacation up in Door County (Fish Creek, WI) at our regular spot in mid July.  I made sure to charge my camera and clean up the memory card, and then I promptly forgot the camera at home next to the computer.   Doh!  I have asked for the photos from my parents but have yet to grab them.  Anyhow, if you had talked to me a week or two prior to this trip, you would have heard me complaining about the week.  Bob was not going (needed to stay home and work), nor were my younger brother/sister-in-law.  I was anticipating missing my buddies and being very lonely indeed (amidst my parents, other extended family members, and my 3 children).  Turns out the week was actually pretty fun.  We stopped by this awesomely cheap amusement park on the way up.  Kids played a bunch of euchre (our family's card game).  They made multiple trips to the Candy Store (which caused me to sing 50 Cent Candy Shop over and over and over).  We had a fun rainy day.  We went to the beach, to PC Junction, Cave Point County Park - all the favorites.  The week ended with me getting a nasty cold and driving home feeling lousy, but even that went ok.  I asked a lot of my boys since I was solo parenting, and they rose to the challenge.

4.  I have added 8 hours to my work week, so now I'm working 32 hours/week.  I work 12 hours on Mondays, but it all pays off by Thursdays at 2 pm, where I'm off until Monday morning.  My extra hours are doing new type of work - still social work, still at the same agency, just a different focus - and I really, really enjoy it.  I feel blessed to do something that I love, that I am trained in, and that is fulfilling to me.  And I dig the people I work with, so that's a nice bonus.  What's not so nice is being gone from my boys, but we are all handling it fairly well.  Our nanny this year is my cousin's adult son, and he's great.  He keeps the kids active, and they enjoy their time with him.

5.  We had too short of a visit in late June with my aforementioned brother/sister-in-law who are now on the move to Tunisia.  My brother got a position with the Peace Corps there, and although I am thrilled for him to have scored such a perfect job for him, I am sad that he is even further away than ever now.  I will visit him - I will! - so now my focus is on saving pennies here and there so that as many of us who want to make the trek can go there.  My brother is back to updating his blog, so read about his adventures there.

6.  Bob and I made the executive decision to not allow One to play tackle football, given the fact that the (self induced) pressure of that situation put him into a bit of an emotional tailspin the past 2 years.  We just took the option away from him.  "We are not paying for it," we said.  He seems relieved to be off the hook, as are we.  It's a much more peaceful August than in years' past.  Two, on the other hand, has just started playing - he of the different temperament than his older brother.  "Are you nervous?" I asked him on the drive to his first practice last week.  He looked at me quizzically, like, "should I be nervous?" and said, "nah."  What a joy to drive a kid to football practice who isn't tantrumming in the car.  What a joy and a relief.

7.  I love learning little things like that about my kids and how to better parent them.  I feel sad that I seem to learn most of those lessons on One's dime.  Those first borns really do have to forge their way, and mine, in the world.  I have a whole new respect for the uptight, anxious, type A firstborns out there.

8.  I read a great book (Gone Girl) and just downloaded another one to my kindle app on my ipad.  I feel so high tech.  Now I just hope I don't forget to read it.

9.  I said goodbye to a very dear friend's very dear mother who passed away last month.  I visited her in the hospital a few weeks before she passed, and I am so glad I got a chance to see her one last time.  The world seemed like a better, safer place with her in it.  Even though I didn't see her very often, I felt comforted knowing that she was out there, doing her thing, being her self, in the world.  I miss her a lot, and my heart hurts for my friend and her loss.

And on that note, I think I'm done.  More to add, but not tonight.  

heat wave

Recent weather Madison

Reflections during this recent heat wave...

1.  I've never wanted to live in Arizona, or the Sahara Desert, or Texas (no offense to any of those fine locales), and this weather confirms it.

2.  Biking in 103 degree weather isn't as bad as one would think.  Until one wants to sit on one's bike seat, which has been outside, collecting heat all day long.  It was a slow burning sensation on the most private of my areas, and I finished my (thankfully short) bike commute home biking while standing.

3.  Posting about my burnt lady parts on facebook wasn't too embarrassing.

4.  Little, and big, people get increasingly more irritable as the mercury rises.

5.  Even the Goodman Pool cannot make those irritations go away.  My kids were complaining about the pool yesterday like I was forcing them to go on a death march.  After an hour or so of too many bodies, too bright sunshine, too loud voices, too many unwanted splashes of water in my face, I called "uncle" and allowed us all to retreat or our own corners in our house.  Best decision of my life.

6.  The repeated warnings to check on the elderly has served as a reminder that I have no more elderly loved ones to check on.  And that makes me very, very sad.

7.  Going to a Milwaukee Brewers game in 101 degree heat isn't the smartest of ideas, even if you can bring in your own food/non-alcoholic drinks (you can!), even if you move to nicer seats in the shade (you can do that too!).  It was blasted hot.  We stayed to the end (extra innings, even), and the car ride home was extra stinky.

8.  Wet, sweaty denim is disgusting (see #7)

9.  Little boys' feelings can get hurt by a snappy mom.  Feelings are best soothed by tender love, talking about the day they were born, and looking at old photo albums.

10.  It's never too hot for home baked chocolate chip cookies.

Summer

Scorching heat 

Tan lines

Goodman pool

No Mosquitos! 

Brewers baseball games

Bike rides

Lap swimming

Staying up too late

Visits from out of town

Moving too fast

Overdue pedicure

Beer

Listening to Paul Simon

Sunshine

And no rain in sight.

spring sports

So, it's springtime, which means we have fun Saturday morning activities again.  We have a soccer player and 2 flag football players.  I've gotten some good video, and I threw together this little movie of our soccer star.  Please ignore his dirty shirt.  No matter what I've tried, I cannot get it clean again.  I'd love to meet the person who thought white would be a good color for a kindergartner's jersey.

Football videos to come...

Quick post especially for my fav sis-in-law A

I looked at two's dirty hands the other night and asked him, "what would aunt A say about your hands?"
"She would say 'disgusting!'" he replied.  It still took 2 hours before he washed them.