Monday, November 15, 2010

the car buying saga

Up much earlier than I wanted to be.  What is it with sleep these days?  It's very elusive.  

Anyway, here I sit, listening to my dryer whirl and my washer wish-wash, and I'm thinking about the day.  Looks to be fairly typical, save for the fact that Bob is off for a training for work in Ohio for a couple of nights.  

I'm relieved to be back to normal.  Bob's car died last week (a wheel fell off while he was diving - fortunately he was driving slowly in the parking lot where he was looking at a truck to buy for work, so he wasn't hurt and we didn't have to worry about moving the car right away), so we were swept into the whirlwind of car buying immediately.  All of my fantasies about only having one car went out the window when reality hit.  I really like (and sometimes need) the convenience of having a car at my ready, and Bob certainly needs one for work -- not only to get to/from work but also to go out and manage the construction jobs he's paid to, well, manage.  So, a car-buying we went.  

I tried to make it a fun adventure -- and it felt that way, at times.  However, we also felt a lot of pressure to buy the right car.  We buy cars to own until they fall literally fall apart (see above paragraph), so we wanted to make the right choice.  Kids were out of school on Thursday for parent-teacher conferences (more on that later), so off we set.

We dropped my car off to the body shop to get the front bumper replaced (THIRD one replaced - damn low-profile/cheaply made bumpers these days), and picked up a (free) rental car.  Kids were psyched to discover there was a third row of seats hidden in the way back, so we took off in comfort.  We all noticed the smoky smell when hopping in the car, but to me it had a rather, well, distinct odor.  Like that of a blunt.  I wondered who exactly had just lit up in the rental car before turning it in.  


Kids complained about the odor.  I kept the windows cracked and put on 93.1 fm, our local hip-hop station.  When in Rome...


After test driving a Mazda 5 (with 100,000+ miles on it - yikes!), we visited our old trusty 1997 Honda CRV to clean it out.  We all reflected on how much we loved that car while the kids got to work it out.  It has over 200,000 miles on it and many, many memories.  It was a good car - terrific in the snow and fun to drive to boot.  Before leaving it the last time, the kids even kissed it goodbye.  I'll miss the old pine cone.  (When we bought this car, it was the first year Honda made CRV's and I thought the name was stupid.  I decided it needed a more nature-like name, and the first one that popped into my head was "pine cone".  The nickname didn't really take hold, but I've always kind of liked it.)


So, loaded up with the contents of the CRV, we returned to the car lots to check out our other options.  In the parking lot of some dealership, I hopped out of the car to look closer at a car on the lot.  The kids stayed in the car.  I chatted with a salesman, all the while hearing the thump of the bass from 93.1 coming from the car.  When I opened the door to get back in, I heard Snoop Dogg on the radio and the smell of marijuana smoke wafted out.  I laughed, wondering what that salesman must have been thinking.


Dealership to dealership we went, test driving some (Toyota Scion) and just looking at others.  My parents had previously agreed to take the kids so that we could go to Two's parent/teacher conference, so I dropped them off  at their house, drove over to pick Bob up at work, and headed back into central Madison to school.  We had a great conference, and quickly headed back out to squeeze some more car shopping in, sans kids.  (My folks generously agreed to feed the kids and take them to wrestling to give us some more time.)


We test drove a Honda Civic and an Accord - drawn to the great gas mileage.  Bob really needs more of a hatchback to haul stuff for work, so we kept on looking.  We checked out the Honda Element, which is Bob's "dream" car (?? I don't get it) but it's only a 4 seater.  No go for a family of 5.  We test drove a Nissan Cube (again with the boxy!).  Our time was up, so we headed back to get the kiddos.


Back home to regroup, we tried to narrow down our priorities.  How important is a new car?  Do we buy foreign or domestic?  Do we focus on gas mileage or cargo space?  How about all wheel drive?  How long do we want this car to last?  Should we just get a beater that we can pass on to One when he's of driving age in 6 (really?! only 6!!) years?  


I found a very helpful website:  www.cargurus.com   We stayed up late on Thursday and Friday night, searching through the internet, trying to make a game plan for Saturday.  On Saturday morning, we headed out in the cold and rain, determined to find our car.  We were willing to travel out of town (had some possibilities in Columbus, Whitewater and Waukesha).  We test drove a Nissan Versa and a Kia Soul, and by this time, I realized that it was a distinct possibility that we would end up with one of these quirky, boxy little numbers that I would be slightly embarrassed to be seen in.  The kids were fighting and stabbing each other with pencils (you think I'm exaggerating?), so Bob dropped Two and Three and I off at the McDonalds playland for some food and play (both of which were quite depressing), and he and One went back out car shopping.  


And then.  Bob called me, rather excitedly.  He found a 2003 Honda CRV with only 25,000 miles on it at a dealership in Middleton.  He was coming over to pick us up to test drive it, but I could tell in his voice that this may be the one.  The pulled in, and I gasped - it was very close in color to the very first new car I ever bought -- a 1990 Honda Civic.  Felt like good (car)karma!  The car looked brand new.  The story was that a couple in their 80's hauled this behind their RV when they wintered in Arizona, so it had very low miles on it.  I liked the car's back-story.  


We went back to the dealership, haggled a bit on the price, got them down a bit, and made the deal.  So, we are the proud new owners of a 7 year old car which appears to have been in a time capsule (the plastic protective covering is still on the radio).  It has the all wheel drive, which we decided was a number one priority.  We are long-time Honda fans, so we feel confident that this car will take us another 200,000 miles.  It even has a moon roof!  And, in total coincidence, after deciding to buy the car, twice we've been followed by a CRV that looked to be the same year and was definitely the same color.  


I have suggested to One and Two (both of whom have become nice storytellers, in part due to a fabulous "writer's workshop" curriculum in their schools) that they should make up a story from the car's perspective -- how the car used to have this quiet life with an older couple who didn't use it much, and now it's about to have a much different life with this loud, wild group of boys.  

Monday, November 1, 2010

miscellaneous Monday

What a great weekend - thanks for asking!  Here are some snapshots of our Friday activities....

We biked to the Kohl Center to go to one of our favorite little buddy's birthday party, which took place at the UW Women's Hockey game.


How cool is that?!


We then decided to bike on over to State Street to trick or treat with participating businesses.  Our costumes were, well, lacking, but we had the spirit!  Here my boys are posing with the hear no, see no, speak no evil monkeys:


And an extra picture of Three, because he is just so darn cute:
 Then home, to eat some dinner and carve pumpkins -- admittedly, one of my least favorite things to do.  However, know what I learned this year?  It's exciting!  It really is!  The kids are all old enough to scoop out the guts of the pumpkins.  Not only that, they enjoyed that!  Yeah for me!  My scooping days are over!  (almost as exciting as getting out of diapers)
 And the results of all of that scooping:


In other news, I just found out my brother and sis-in-law are moving to Palestine.  I am excited for them, though a teeny bit leery too.  However, I'm NOT going to miss this chance to visit, like I did when he was in the Peace Corps in Mali, W. Africa.  Hear that, Mark?  I'll come to see you, whether you like it or not!  (4 years?  really??)  (and the kids are all signed up for their Arabic foreign language classes, so they'll be ready to communicate with you)


As a side note, October is the month where I've personally experienced the most death.  I've been to more funerals in October than any other month, I'm sure of it.  Maybe it's because of that, but I've been having very interesting dreams lately where my dead beloveds (friends and family) visit me.  They seem more real than my other dreams, and there are some recurring themes.  I'd love to go to a psychic to explore this further.  I like these dreams, although they do leave me a bit shaken when I wake up.  


And lastly, I realized this afternoon that when a recipe calls for 3 cups of cooked rice, you don't need to use 3 cups of dry rice.  Doh!  Rice, anyone?

Thursday, October 28, 2010

october update

Hey reader(s),


Not much happening around here lately.  Or, maybe, not much noteworthy.  Or, maybe, not much that I'm inspired to remark upon.  


Got a new camera.  My old digital camera has been slowly falling apart, and it finally bit the dust this week.  It's amazing how much cameras have changed in 7 years - so many more features, so much cheaper.  Well, cheaper is a relative term...


We've been windy around here.  And cold.  Guess our summer truly is over.  (autumn too?)


Three cut his hair this week.  This is 2 weeks after he finally agreed to getting a real haircut.  His hair was so cute - little boy, short but those curls were still evident.  On Monday, he proudly came into the room I was in and announced, "look, Mom!  I cut my hair!" and sure enough - down to the scalp in several places.  I called a neighbor and borrowed his clippers, and now my sweet little 4 year old looks like a cancer survivor.  Or an army recruit.  It's shocking and, as One keeps saying, "it's just not right".  
Three - sporting the crew cut look
two - sporting the chocolate-below-the-lip look
One - sporting the bunny-ears-over-brothers'-heads look


Kids are off from school today and tomorrow.  We are heading to the Betty Brinn Children's Museum and Discovery World in downtown Milwaukee with another family.  Should be a fun day, if we don't get swept off of the highway in a wind gust.  We are also invited to a bonfire at Picnic Point tonight with a group from school, but I'm  not sure we'll make it there.  

Tomorrow we're going to one of our favorite little friends' birthday party at the Kohl Center.  She is having her party there during the UW women's hockey game.  Should be fun.


We are excitedly planning a trip to the east coast for the week of Thanksgiving.  We'll go to the NFL hall of fame in Canton, OH, to Baltimore to visit my brother and sis-in-law for a couple of nights, and then to NYC to stay with my cousin's girlfriend for 4 nights.  We're driving - inspired to do this thanks to our successful trip to Kentucky in September.  This time Bob is joining us.


Speaking of football, the kids' seasons are over - well, almost.  One's is done, and we went to a football banquet at the high school for the youth football program this week.  Two has a tournament on Saturday.  I have more to say about this, but not now.  It has been an interesting and frustrating year, and I need to compose my thoughts about it all.  (and then send those thoughts to the contact person at the YMCA)


Three and I had a sweet little visit with friends this week -- Jessica and baby Joe (though not a baby anymore, we can't stop calling him that).  Jessica is one of those friends who, although I don't see her all that often, I can pick up right from where we last left off, effortlessly. Those friendships are especially sweet to me -- as is Jessica.  


OK, off to manage the troops.  They seem cranky.  Or maybe I'm cranky.  Good times!


playing with the new camera

Monday, October 18, 2010

little gem

One just said, "mom, I don't think I've ever chewed with my front teeth."


"You don't chew with your front teeth," I responded, "you bite with them and chew with your back."


Pause.  "Oh.  I've never thought about that before."

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Lots of fall fun around here lately.  


We went to the UW Madison homecoming parade on Friday night.  Always a favorite, and they give out good swag.  We left with bags full of candy, strings of beads, and a t-shirt for Two.  But the most sought-after item amongst my 4 boys (a neighbor boy came along)?  A wisp.


Saturday was full of football games in the morning (I realize I haven't blogged much about football this year - another time) and a trip to our friends' farm for veggies and chicken coop cleaning.  After that, we went to a corn maze, which was just about the death of this family.  Maybe I'll also post more about this a different day, but let's just say that 2 extra (challenging, to me) kids and record 85 degree weather and not enough water or snacks AND a difficult corn maze equaled bad attitudes aplenty.  


The rowdy group after finally completing the maze
On Sunday, we biked down to a nearby park for a hayride with neighbors, complete with smores over an open fire.  Didn't quite have that autumnal ambiance, as it was 80 some degrees again, but it was fun nonetheless.  We left and hung out at another neighbor's house, where the boys played four square in the street and we parents gossiped chatted.  Nice way to end the weekend.
hayride fun - it's contagious!
Our weather is finally turning a bit more seasonal, which is perfectly fine with me.  Three is in his "off" cycle for his speech class now, so he and I have been enjoying our lazy mornings together.  Today we delivered a too-small trike to a little neighborhood boy whom Three is fond of (largely due to the fact that they share the same name).  Then we went to the farmer's market at Hilldale and to Goodwill to pass along another ride-on toy and clothes.  


We've been hanging on the playground after school more lately, which has just been so, so nice.  There's a sweet new crop of kids and mamas (and a dad or two sprinkled in too).   I do still yearn for my playground pals of old, but this seems like a nice group too.


I'm still loving my haircut, in case you were wondering.

Thursday, October 7, 2010

revelations while shopping

I had an unexpected experience yesterday.  Three is almost done with his six week stint in his speech phenology clinic (he cycles 6 weeks on/6 weeks off for 10 hours/week -- mornings), so I've been frantically trying to fit in all sorts of self-indulgent fun during this last week.  A couple of trips to the gym club to sweat like crazy, mixed in with some shopping here and there.  Yesterday, I decided to go to Target.  This could possibly be my first daytime shopping trip to Target without a child in tow.


And it hit me like a ton of bricks - my kids are not babies anymore.  You know the joke about Target being a stay-at-home mom's playground during the weekdays before naptime, right?  So there I was, casually shopping, no child in my shopping cart, no one begging for a toy, and I felt kind of lonely.  I wandered around and found myself in the halloween decorations, and I felt waaaaay lonelier.  I remembered so many trips years ago with One as a little guy, then One and Two as little guys, picking out halloween decorations or costumes.  I got so sad. 


I walked past the baby clothes, even fondly remembering my favorite onesies and booties and blankies from when they were babies.  I oohed and ahhed at the babies in the store.  My long overcome "pain" with never having a little girl even resurfaced, and, I must admit, I toyed around with "maybe we SHOULD have another baby" for a minute or two.  


We're not.  I'm too old, and my body cannot take growing and bearing another child (however cute they are).  Our house, while comfortable for us, cannot handle another child easily.  Quite frankly, our budget cannot handle another child easily.  I already feel like the oldest mother ever in my closest grouping of friends.  I closed the emotional door on having more children after Three was born, so I was surprised when this came out of a seemingly benign trip to Target at Halloween time.


I left there, feeling blue, and picked Three up from school.  He asked if we could go on our date (remember our date schedule?  Three's month was September and we kind of skipped our date time with him).  I thought, "sure, this may cheer me up."  (I'll edit this to add that I also considered how HE might like it too - I'm such a benevolent mom, yes indeed.)


We went to the food court at the mall (sophisticated food tastes), and my little Three was just a delight to be with.  He kept winking at me when I was in the food line.  He held my hand, gave me lots of spontaneous hugs and kisses, said, "you da best, mom" countless times.  He played at the indoor playground area (which he is technically too tall for - gulp, yet another reminder) and made quick friends with the other kids there.  He very agreeably went to the Coach Store and the Apple Store (who knew West Towne was so hip?) and proudly held my hand while we waved goodbye to his newfound play area buds.  


I returned home a happier mama, much more content with my position in life.  Yes, no more sweet little babies for me, but I have some pretty sweet big kids around here too.


my three and me in a tender moment

Friday, October 1, 2010

haircut

 As promised, info on my haircut.  So, I've been without a regular stylist for a few years now. I had a stylist whom I loved, but she moved a little farther away from me, and then I lost her phone number, and then I finally found it and called her but she never called me back to schedule an appointment.  I figured that was the universe's way to tell me to move on.  Since this, I've just been bopping here and there, usually using coupons.  Because I'm cheap, that's for damn sure.


A friend gave me a great tip, which I am about to pass along to you (you are welcome).  The Aveda VICI Institute on the UW campus in downtown Madison offers $12 haircuts.  You schedule an appointment, go into a bustling, slightly more classroom-than-salon environment, and get a full service haircut -- shampoo, scalp massage (my fav), cut and styling -- ALL with Aveda products.  But wait.  Like any good infomercial, it gets better.  If you go on a weekday (Tues - Fri) before 10 am, you get the "early bird special" and the hair cuts are half off.  That's right.  Six bucks!  That's crazy talk but TRUE!!!!!


They have a full "menu" of offerings there (nails, facials, eyebrow waxing, color, etc) and I'm not sure what all is half off during the early bird special, but on Thursdays, you get meatloaf and mashed potatoes too!  (that's my old-lady-early-bird-special joke).  


The downside, because there has to be one, is that it takes a long time.  My haircut took 1 1/2 hours.  But it was a pleasant 1 1/2 hours.  Who wouldn't like to sit still and quiet and have someone futz with their hair for 1 1/2 hours?  Not me!  (or, would that be "me!"  how do I answer that?)  So if you have the time, go and do good for your community and offer your hair to these students to learn on.  This has now changed from an infomercial to a PSA. Wow, I'm good.


And now, to the pictures.  I've taken a ridiculous amount of time trying to capture the right mood and lighting and look.  All of a sudden, Tyra Banks' advice to those Top Model wannabees makes sense.  I need to make my eyes more alive, but everytime I try, I end up with the crazy eye.  Furthermore, I don't know how to take a self portrait without the glare from my glasses.  You'll just have to trust me that my eyes were pretty and not crazy in that bottom shot.


This is from the day of the haircut.  Note the pretty styling.  That will never be replicated again.  Also, note the scarf, Stephanie.  I do love this trend and I don't care I'm one of the herd.


This is my attempt at styling it, with hair product and curls.  It's an extremely dark photo which  makes it all the more dramatic but may not lend itself well to showing off my hair.  Oh well...
And this was taken just today.  This is "out of bed, brush my hair, throw on my scarf, head out the door" look, which is, actually, my every day look.
Maybe I need to work on my mouth too.   Not much life there either.  These self-portraits are harder than they look.


What do you think?  Pretty good for six bucks!